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The doctor is out.
Nov 5, 2009
As some people have apparently noticed, I haven't been around this week. I've just been crazy busy. I'm certainly far behind everything I have here, and have been for some time. Generally, I check my inbox first, then try to whip through notifications, and then get to requests. At that first step, I found this in my inbox this evening from one of my friends:
"my sister tired to add you and you ignore her how rude.u suck."
I presume that's one of the three friend requests I have, plus 54 lists, 52 polls, 103 styleboards, 74 blogazines, one product, and eight others. The order I go through requests may seem a bit haphazard. For starters, much of my Kaboodling time is on the train where I don't have net access, so I'll download a bunch of pages, respond to them on the train, and upload the responses when I'm on the net again. That's why you might see a big burst of activity from me. I might also not get to some of those pages, so future Kaboodling sessions tend to focus on looking and responding to those tabs rather than new requests that come in.
When looking at new requests, I do tend to look at friend requests first, but I don't just automatically click accept -- I check the person out first. I make sure that the person is someone I want as a friend. Most people around here are really great, and I usually accept it, but there are some I ignore. This evaluation takes time... and a net connection.
For the other requests, I try to take the time to look at anything people send me. I try to make my comments informative and thought-out, as opposed to just hearting and saying that something's cute -- there's nothing wrong with doing that -- it's just not me. At least one of my friends here has told me that she always looks forward to my comments because they are detailed like that.
Kaboodle is something I do for fun. Okay, that's true of most people here, but I don't have much time for fun. My job is really three full time jobs: I'm the manager for our contract, as well as both the architect and senior engineer for a multi-million dollar project (paid for by your tax dollars). I work a minimum of 50 hours a week, sometimes up to 80. Add onto that an hour commuting on my bike everyday, my cycling club on Saturday, the Passenger Advisory Council for my train, and running a household. When I started here, I could just leave Kaboodle up in a window in the background at work, which I know many of you do as well. That's a luxury I don't have anymore. I can't even keep up with my work email at work (hey, I'm down to 87 unread messages there!).
So I ask all of my friends and prospective friends to understand that if you send me something, I might not get to it right away. It might even take a while. That's not because I'm ignoring you or trying to be rude, I'm just that busy.
I will get to those friend requests, but I need to go get the five hours sleep I get most nights.
"my sister tired to add you and you ignore her how rude.u suck."
I presume that's one of the three friend requests I have, plus 54 lists, 52 polls, 103 styleboards, 74 blogazines, one product, and eight others. The order I go through requests may seem a bit haphazard. For starters, much of my Kaboodling time is on the train where I don't have net access, so I'll download a bunch of pages, respond to them on the train, and upload the responses when I'm on the net again. That's why you might see a big burst of activity from me. I might also not get to some of those pages, so future Kaboodling sessions tend to focus on looking and responding to those tabs rather than new requests that come in.
When looking at new requests, I do tend to look at friend requests first, but I don't just automatically click accept -- I check the person out first. I make sure that the person is someone I want as a friend. Most people around here are really great, and I usually accept it, but there are some I ignore. This evaluation takes time... and a net connection.
For the other requests, I try to take the time to look at anything people send me. I try to make my comments informative and thought-out, as opposed to just hearting and saying that something's cute -- there's nothing wrong with doing that -- it's just not me. At least one of my friends here has told me that she always looks forward to my comments because they are detailed like that.
Kaboodle is something I do for fun. Okay, that's true of most people here, but I don't have much time for fun. My job is really three full time jobs: I'm the manager for our contract, as well as both the architect and senior engineer for a multi-million dollar project (paid for by your tax dollars). I work a minimum of 50 hours a week, sometimes up to 80. Add onto that an hour commuting on my bike everyday, my cycling club on Saturday, the Passenger Advisory Council for my train, and running a household. When I started here, I could just leave Kaboodle up in a window in the background at work, which I know many of you do as well. That's a luxury I don't have anymore. I can't even keep up with my work email at work (hey, I'm down to 87 unread messages there!).
So I ask all of my friends and prospective friends to understand that if you send me something, I might not get to it right away. It might even take a while. That's not because I'm ignoring you or trying to be rude, I'm just that busy.
I will get to those friend requests, but I need to go get the five hours sleep I get most nights.
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Comments (13)
Whoever sent you that message is the rude person - not you. How impossibly arrogant of that person to think that you should 'jump to' their (or a friend's request). I hope that you deleted that person - - people like that should not be on Kaboodle. I for one, think you should a lot of class for not calling him or her out by name. If you did, and they happened to be my 'friend' I would have deleted them immediately.
Pssst, I meant showed - not should. As in, "you showed a lot of class...." lol
You should have deleted that person. There is no excuse for rudeness, even online. People think that online is a "safe place" since you can't call them out to their face, but there is absolutely no reason to act as spoiled and ignorant as that person. And they aren't the only person that is that way, so I'm not just calling them out. Ignorance, selfishness, and stupidity is the most frustrating thing to me, and I will not apologize for any unforgiving speech on the subject.
Wow...that was a really rude email to you. I can imagine [if you didnt already delete them] that person reading this blog and having a major nob! Haha...
Anyways, I really do love reading your comments! They always have some thought behind them. And how do people even keep track that you are ignoring them? I just send my stuff out and see what comes back, I never think people are ignoring me. Maybe they just think the subject matter is ugly. haha! lol
i really think that more people on kaboodle need to realize that not every accidental missing of a comment or a request is a personal dig. not everyone has the extra time set aside to check kaboodle every day or even every week. there's no reason for you to feel bad at all! that person is incredibly rude and should be ashamed of themselves. you are one of the greatest members of kaboodle, you don't deserve that nonsense.
No problem @zoe you take your time catch up with your work and we will hear from you as soon as you can get around to it. I enjoy all you have to say. I will take the time to say Thank You for adding me on Kaboodle.
wow that person is super rude i mean people have lives
not everyone is like that person where they have their whole life to waste
There's a couple rude people around here. It sucks, but what's sad is they have no life and are just needing attention and know no healthy way to get it. So they're rude.
You, on the other hand, have class and others can and should take lessons from you. So I hope you dumped the rude email in the trash and went on your merry way. There's too many nice people here to even think about the rude ones. I love reading your comments and posts. I miss that you're not around as much as you once were, but hey, we unfortunately have lives outside of K, so I understand completely. I'm happy we are friends here. Thank you. :)
So I went to add said person to the "tell your friends about this post" and they weren't there. I guess they deleted me already.
I suspect this had nothing to do with being on-line -- this person is probably much like that in real life.
I don't hold a grudge here or any desire to respond in kind. Rather, I think the right thing to do is lead by example, turn the other cheek so to speak. Just telling someone they're being rude isn't going to change anything, but the purpose of this post and my goal in being generally kind is to make anyone who might have thought along those lines is to expand their world view. Really, I think that was the problem here: if you can spend all day here on Kaboodle, power to you -- I just think that this person's world view was limited such that it didn't occur to them that not everyone has that opportunity. Or maybe their view was that doing Kaboodle things shouldn't take much time: get a friend request, accept it; get a poll request, vote; get a blog request, heart it; get a styleboard request, say "Cute!"... then deal with the spam filter; turn off notifications on responses after your comments. If that's the way someone Kaboodles, that's fine, but that's not the way I do it. If we all did things the same way, this would be a pretty boring place. That's true of life in general.
I will admit that I too look forward to hearing from some of my friends here more than others, and I do notice when those friends don't respond to something, but I always figure it's because they're busy, or they just don't have anything to say on the matter. Indeed, sometimes those friends respond a couple months after I post something, showing that they're just really busy like I am.
In any case, I also enjoy the friends I've made here, and I hope that the few of you who are particularly special to me know that you mean as much to me as any other friend - Kaboodle or otherwise. Thanks for all the kind words!
:)
Oh my !! I am cracking up typing this b'coz who the hell is person to say that to you or anyone else .I hope I don't have that rude person on my friends list..I am so serous!Like come on now.. people have other stuff to do beside Kaboodling.See for me I 'm kinda lucky I get to kaboodle alot.And not alot of people can say the same,and if I don't have time I do NOT want no stupid and rude ass person messaging with some ignorant crap.I have 3 kids.I work part time,and also doing online classes.So I would be so mad at that person.Believe me.And your right that person is probably rude in person as he/she is Kaboodle.
Zow your a gentlemen to even take that nonsense.And not putting that person on blast...when I think you should've so us Kaboodlers know who that person is that is so damn rude!!
@juju_84: fear not -- I imagine that with an attitude like that, if you or anyone else has them as a friend, you'll find out sooner or later. One of the axioms of a gentleman is that discretion is the better part of valor, and that doesn't apply only to intimate matters. Not that I've always acted as a perfect gentleman, but I do strive to do so by default.
Right on @zoe Rock on!!! : }