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  OK....I have A LOT of experience here girl! NOT FUN BUT....I will tell you exactly what to do! READ, Get rid of everything that is his, his and yours or reminds you of him for atleast the moment....box it up and put it out of sight! Then eat!!!!!!!!!! Then find a rebound! Tell them its a rebound and to deal with it!!!! Do NOTHING with that person you did with your ex! NEW ADVENTURES! Go for walks....talk for hours on the porch!!! THEN YOU CALL THAT SLIMY EX IN A WEEK AND TELL HIM "THANK YOU" Even if you dont mean it IT WILL HELP!!!! Tell him thank you for the chance to start over with your life, you wont feel that way but this is the first step to YOUR recovery!!! Tell him you are excited to start on a new path and for that your thankful! DO NOT LET HIM TALK! Say thank you and bye!!! IN YOUR PHONE....DO NOT DELETE HIS NUBER!! RENAME IT! "DO NOT ANSWER" whatever you do....DONT TALK TO HIM FOR ATLEAST 5 MONTHS!!!!! HEAL! Live for you!!! Update me let me know how you are when you do this in a week and we will go from there! DR PHIL HERE TO HELP!! LOL! DONT FORGET TO MAKE YOURSELF SMILE, THEN LAUGH! Report Spam Posted by ksmithmh at 12:13 PM on 12/03/09

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  Well, getting rid of everything that reminds me of him is easy--I have nothing. I don't know how, but we went three months without giving anything to each other. Omg, I just realized he has something to remind him of me at his house--a box of tampons, lol! And yes, I agree about the rebound. I really need to get out and meet somebody for a nice, little fling. Thanks so much for the support, ksmith. Report Spam Posted by punkinpie at 1:06 PM on 12/03/09

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  1) Make lots of plans with your FRIENDS! 2) For retail therapy, if you have a LITTLE cash, even buying new lip gloss, a cheap hair accessory, mascara, nail polish, or something under 10.00 is a little theraputic! 3) Look for something new to start in your life. Volunteer, get together with friends to learn art projects, make friendship bracelets, or work at a soup kitchen during the holidays. Doing something that helps others will make you feel better about yourself. Or you could go all out and have a holiday bake sale (or art or DIY craft- whatever you like) to benefit your favorite charity. It is important to focus on something that you can feel like you control, and right now you have to focus on yourself. You have to take this as an opportunity to make yourself better than ever, and feel like you can do whatever you set out to do. I know you can! 4) Think about things that you liked about your boyfriend and really think hard about why those things are irreplacable in another guy. Most of the time they aren't. There is definitely someone else really amazing out there waiting for ya! :) It honestly does take TIME. Time is the only thing that will really make yourself feel better. If you have anxiety or anything like that, you should talk to someone. Make sure you are eating, even if you have to hypnotize yourself in front of the TV with a plate of chicken nuggets or a milkshake. You'll get there! :) Report Spam Posted by anilang212 at 1:12 PM on 12/03/09

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  So sorry to hear about the breakup. That sucks. His loss. I agree with the advice so far, especially about spending times with friends, focusing on you and doing things you like. Of course, eating all sorts of junk food is good for the soul, too :) I find that I always had to go through all the stages before I could move on though. I would listen to super sappy songs that would make me cry my eyes out, then move on to the angry YOU SUCK songs (Like you Oughta Know), then to songs that weren't angry, but about moving on like Survivor by Destiny's Child or Toni Braxton's He Wasn't Man Enough For Me, or Moving On and If You Died I Wouldn't Cry... both by Mya - its all R&B, but I've found they have the best girl power/you suck ex bf songs :). Singing them at the top of my lungs was always so cathartic for me. I actually made a playlist of songs that dealt with the stages of grief - I'm kind of a dork like that. So let me know if you need more song titles. Hang in there! Report Spam Posted by agauthier79 at 2:02 PM on 12/03/09

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  His loss!!! I shadow the thoughts of everyone here. Focus on friends and call and make plans with everyone you couldn't make time for. Focus on the ones that sopport you. Thats what you need. Report Spam Posted by kelsjax at 2:36 PM on 12/03/09

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  Listen to music and make dumb music videos!!! Bring your friends over to jon in. Kelly Clarkson and Taylor Siwft have the best breakup songs. Report Spam Posted by sarahdipityyy at 4:24 PM on 12/03/09

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  girls night, ice cream, ridiculous funny movies (NOT ROMANTIC COMEDIES!), and music. or you can just wallow in misery until you feel better. that works sometimes. :) Report Spam Posted by anna_panda at 5:22 PM on 12/03/09

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  I dont have a lot of experience in the break-up area, but I can say this: you're free. I'm not saying you should go run wild, but have a little fun, you deserve it! Be it a rebound or a couple splurges, it will help you through it as long as you dont become dependent on these things. If all else fails, though, have a girls night and eat every junk food imaginable :) Report Spam Posted by crayola09 at 5:26 PM on 12/03/09

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  I'd go with great books, amazing and supportive friends and family, video games/board games, and anything that makes you feel like YOU, and happy. It still won't take away the hurt...but the healing process will go MUCH faster. We love you, darlin'!!!! :) Report Spam Posted by jolieznor at 7:36 PM on 12/03/09

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  Think of it as a good thing! You dont have him lagging you down anymore. Hang out with your friends as much as possible, and make new ones if you can! Report Spam Posted by dreapuff at 11:56 PM on 12/05/09

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  ok, sorry, but what that first person said was very bad advice! rebounds are not good!! you will just compare him to your ex and it will make you sad. And what happens when you can't find someone to rebound with?? that will make you even sadder! And if your ex comes back and you want him back.. you will have weird feelings about the rebound guy. also, it's so lame to call him up and be like "oh i just wanted to tell you i'm doing great" no guy will believe that! that is pathetic.. what SHOULD you do then? do what makes you happy without worrying about what he would think. eat ice cream and not worry about what he'd think about it. Watch LOTS of comedy.. I recommend Fresh Prince! Chances are you didn't start watching it with him.. but something that you liked before he came in the picture and will give you lots of LOLs. Do girly stuff with your friends.. or even just with yourself. There's probably lots you haven't been doing bc he wouldn't participate, now you don't have to let him be in the way.Listen to music.. DANCE!reading a book is also a good idea.Think about the broader picture.. he's just one guy of many.. You'll find someone new and he'll love you and that's the best feeling.. And think about more important problems in the world and try to do stuff to make the world a better place... and count your blessings! Report Spam Posted by aannggiiee at 5:40 PM on 12/10/09