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Elope absolutely!! The small wedding is gorgeous though.... Posted by whiterabbit at 7:27 AM on 8/14/07 Report Spam

Hard choice...if you elope do Barbados. I hear it's beautiful. Posted by elocinclay at 10:24 AM on 8/14/07 Report Spam

I say elope and spend the money saved on your new beginning together, like housing, etc. Congrats! Posted by blueskies7 at 8:07 PM on 8/14/07 Report Spam

if you do a destination wedding,you can have more guests for about the same price as your 40 guest idea... Posted by ary876 at 11:24 AM on 8/15/07 Report Spam

Use the extra money to start a downpayment on a house or something else. I did the small wedding, and wish now I hadn't spent so much. Posted by dubh at 3:56 AM on 8/17/07 Report Spam

Barbados :D nice! Posted by duzky at 12:34 AM on 8/24/07 Report Spam

I would much rather elope and put the money into a house! Posted by jayayesee at 8:57 PM on 8/27/07 Report Spam

We are doing a small wedding for under $3000. You don't have to elope to do that, you just have to be smart and cut out all the extravagant choices for the wedding. Keep it simple. Posted by kitti2karen at 1:44 AM on 8/29/07 Report Spam

after months of compromising with my family and my fiance's family, i say ELOPE! your wedding is for you, no matter what anyone says. so do it the stress-free way and enjoy enjoy enjoy! Posted by maxandevelyn at 8:57 PM on 8/29/07 Report Spam

this one will be worth the money. If you want to have the time of your life, then go with Elope. Posted by jencknight at 2:28 AM on 9/1/07 Report Spam

I eloped. So much easier on everyone, especially me. Posted by fallentimbersfarm at 12:41 PM on 9/3/07 Report Spam

Elope and go shopping on Kaboodle. Posted by rystique at 2:29 PM on 9/10/07 Report Spam

Wish I had done this! Posted by soccergrl at 10:35 PM on 9/13/07 Report Spam

way more romantic and sexy!^ ^ and cheaper, lol!^ ^ Posted by qutequeen786 at 7:40 AM on 9/15/07 Report Spam

Wedding are great but make some fun memories with just you and your love and spend the money on something else. I eloped! Posted by secretbutterfly8 at 11:36 AM on 9/16/07 Report Spam

Honey, save that extra cash for the Honeymoon! Posted by klanih at 3:05 AM on 9/19/07 Report Spam

big wedding it's your special day Posted by unknown at 6:04 AM on 9/19/07

Elope...but spend the $6K on yourselves. You deserve it. Posted by beeflo at 2:10 PM on 9/19/07 Report Spam

Barbados! Posted by hangloose1350 at 1:11 PM on 9/24/07 Report Spam

this one Posted by catherine at 3:19 PM on 9/27/07

Anywhere that isn't Vegas. Posted by olorle at 3:33 PM on 9/28/07 Report Spam

Have the small wedding its supposed to be a special day shared with your family. You'll get your house, etc.... theres no time limit. Posted by blackdiamond30 at 12:07 PM on 9/29/07 Report Spam

My husband and I eloped, but I still had a floor-length white dress and a maid of Honor. (She eloped with us, although, it should be noted, not on the honeymoon. :-) When you elope, you are just as married as if you had a big ceremony, but you have money left to start your life together. When we got back both of our families threw seperate receptions for us. (Our families live far away from each other.) So we ended up with two parties instead of one, and we didn't have to pay for it. Posted by marlee1114 at 1:11 AM on 9/30/07 Report Spam

Barbados or Bahamas or someplace warm and tropical. St Thomas...get married on the beach! Posted by caribbrz at 8:53 PM on 10/1/07 Report Spam

I have always been a fan of the get hitched on your own and throw a party for your friends plan. I would invite the folks to the ceremony (if you want) and then throw a modest party at your convinience for your friends and certain reletives with drinks, food, and fun. most people hate the wedding part of the wedding anyway. anyway congrats! Posted by mozzer500 at 12:19 PM on 10/3/07 Report Spam

Much cheaper and much less stress. I wish I could do it. Will your family go? Posted by espicer at 11:37 AM on 10/4/07 Report Spam

Save money and have more fun! Posted by unknown at 7:37 PM on 10/4/07

FUN Posted by dnd61392 at 10:26 AM on 10/5/07 Report Spam

Go have fun I wish you the best of Luck Marida Posted by marida at 10:10 AM on 10/5/07 Report Spam

Highly recommended based on my personal experience! Posted by keiron at 12:57 PM on 10/8/07 Report Spam

what´s important is both your happiness, this is just about you and him...and of course, that little angel? Posted by bearbies02 at 2:21 PM on 10/8/07 Report Spam

romantic Posted by froggylover1025 at 1:06 PM on 10/10/07 Report Spam

I'm all for the elopement. So many of my married friends wish they had done it! Have a big party with your family when you get back! Posted by laratherese at 11:24 AM on 10/11/07 Report Spam

My husband and I did Vegas five years ago and would do it all over again the same way! Posted by shellye at 2:24 PM on 10/11/07 Report Spam

I was married at one time in my life and chose to have a big wedding! Now at my age I have realized the intimacy and romance definately make a marriage more exciting, and begins the marriage with excitement, and the realization that whomever you've chose should be the one to cherish this moment with! Posted by twmbrly at 7:07 AM on 10/13/07 Report Spam

the weddings for you and your hubby i say you injoy it forget the guests lol you can even waste more on the honey moon Posted by capotej12 at 11:18 AM on 10/13/07 Report Spam

Wedding and Honeymoon all in one Posted by browneyez1975 at 5:30 AM on 10/17/07 Report Spam

Barbados baby Posted by mtkac at 12:07 PM on 10/17/07 Report Spam

The wedding is about you & no-one else. An intimate ceremony far away from home is magical. It's also a wedding & honeymoon in one! I'd recommend Barbados, though. Posted by gmintee at 2:33 PM on 10/17/07 Report Spam

The wedding is about you & no-one else. An intimate ceremony far away from home is magical. It's also a wedding & honeymoon in one! I'd recommend Barbados, though. Posted by gmintee at 2:33 PM on 10/17/07 Report Spam

Take the cash & run Posted by elementa at 7:37 PM on 10/17/07 Report Spam

Go for it!!!! But if you want the big wedding for $3000, Go for it instead!!! Do what your heart wants!!! Posted by hyrupar at 9:06 PM on 10/17/07 Report Spam

planning a wedding for just a few people takes the same, probably more, work than one for 100 people. It is frequently hard to find vendors for small weddings. Over the last year I have frequently wished that I had chosen vegas. Posted by rinny at 1:47 PM on 10/18/07 Report Spam

or go to JP like me and spend 60.00 Posted by aniecea at 4:42 PM on 10/20/07 Report Spam

I eloped and it was so much better!! you don't have to take 500 pictures with 500 different poses. Also it will ONLY be about you two, now everyone else included!!! Posted by daisymae23 at 10:19 PM on 10/20/07 Report Spam

It will end up costing you about $6000 in reality, unless you elope. Good luck! Posted by keeganskorner at 2:26 PM on 10/21/07 Report Spam

A wedding is a day in the life. The marriage IS the life. Use your savings for a fabulous honeymoon or downpayment on a house. Or create some memories to "leave in Vegas" cause what happens there, stays there ;) Posted by essdee at 8:17 PM on 10/21/07

always elope - weddings are a hassle! Spend the money on having a bit of fun Posted by fugsly at 7:54 AM on 10/22/07 Report Spam

Elops in Vegas! Posted by vivanyc at 5:50 PM on 10/22/07

all that matters is the marriage dont wprry about pleasing everyone just make sure you and your man are happy Posted by graceless82 at 7:08 AM on 10/23/07 Report Spam

Take all that money you'd spend on a big fancy wedding that's over in a few hours and put it into a romantic trip or your home or kids' college funds! Posted by rubypepper at 1:06 PM on 10/24/07 Report Spam

I have a huge wedding. Now I"m divorced. The money would have been nice! Posted by sarasotasweetie at 1:18 PM on 10/25/07 Report Spam

Vegas is always cool, but Barbados is something special! Posted by mystcxprns at 7:44 AM on 10/26/07 Report Spam

Personally I'm a fan of larger weddings. You need more than 40 guests to share your big day with! and plus youll be looking stunning and dont you want everyone to see you looking so beautiful? Posted by elle123123123 at 5:22 AM on 10/27/07 Report Spam

With a baby on the way, saving money would be the best option. Posted by adiabia at 4:01 AM on 10/27/07 Report Spam

This way you wont hve discrepancies from family or friends. Just take those you trust most and most want to be there. Posted by mar47 at 11:55 AM on 10/28/07 Report Spam

Have a nice honeymoon between you two. It's YOUR wedding. Posted by tiklemetanyay at 4:31 PM on 10/28/07 Report Spam

Save your money, elope. More romantic, so much less hectic, and you have some cash to start off with. (congrats btw!) Posted by nefarious_cupcake at 5:07 PM on 10/28/07 Report Spam

elope, the day should be about you two, not a ton of guests, + it's alot of money and stress! Have a small reception when you get back if you want. Posted by leap_frogger_06 at 1:18 AM on 10/29/07 Report Spam

it will be over before you now it. start ur life together with a little more money. Posted by jcbennett at 6:00 AM on 10/29/07 Report Spam

So much more fun! Posted by oshellybean at 11:12 AM on 10/30/07 Report Spam

Elope, have a party when you get home and use the extra money for your future together. Posted by qnbus at 7:48 AM on 11/3/07 Report Spam

Much less expensive and lots more fun. We did it and never regretted it. Posted by romeolin at 10:29 AM on 11/3/07 Report Spam

Think smart! The wedding is about you & him to be not your guests. Posted by ginabess at 9:13 PM on 11/4/07 Report Spam

sounds better Posted by kelbielouanne2 at 7:56 PM on 11/5/07 Report Spam

Elope! Then spend some cash on a party for your family/friends when you get back. Posted by elkiev71 at 10:13 AM on 11/6/07 Report Spam

funner Posted by nicole2011 at 9:09 AM on 11/6/07 Report Spam

If you elope to Vegas the money you save could be used to have a lot of fun elsewhere. Posted by katrionna at 9:54 AM on 11/7/07 Report Spam

Spend your money on the honeymoon, and have a big party when you get back for all your friends and family. Thats the best part of the wedding anyway. Congratulations! Enjoy! Posted by jbiz1981 at 11:06 AM on 11/7/07 Report Spam

go for it! have fun. party. Posted by mamacita11 at 6:02 AM on 11/8/07 Report Spam

looks good Posted by terence at 7:05 AM on 11/10/07

I did the big wedding - stuff always happens and people are always telling you have to do stuff you don't want to and no one really gets the perfect reception they want - go to barbados and enjoy each other and celebrate they two of you and your love! Posted by unknown at 3:18 PM on 11/11/07

save ur money and buy something useful afterwards Posted by jerryaz at 5:08 PM on 11/11/07 Report Spam

I got married at the Bellagio in Vegas...it was beautiful and I just told them what I liked and they made it happen...took all the stress out of it and I got to enjoy myself...plus all our guests had a blast. Posted by aiwhite at 8:47 PM on 11/11/07 Report Spam

barbados Posted by kelbel7997 at 8:44 AM on 11/13/07 Report Spam

Elope.. you'll be happier for it (the family might not) but its a dang sight cheaper! Posted by trillium at 1:05 PM on 11/13/07 Report Spam

Does it really matter for everyone you know to be there? No you can bring them back pic and souvenirs ;) Go enjoy yourself and have a great Honeymoon Posted by plussizeappeal at 4:55 AM on 11/17/07 Report Spam

I wanted to elope so badly. Really wish i had and just had a big party when we came back. So much less stress! Posted by debi90 at 10:19 AM on 11/17/07 Report Spam

The people in Barbados are assholes (I've been there). Plus the "airport" and I do use that term loosely, reminds me of a chicken farm. Go to St. Lucia and stay at Sandals. It totally ROCKS! Posted by elibra at 11:56 AM on 11/17/07 Report Spam

If I had it to do over-I would elope. It is cheaper and more intimite for the both of you. A wedding is for all the other people. You should do what YOU want Posted by Rebecca at 11:19 AM on 11/19/07

Wedding and honeymoon in one-what a bargain! Posted by taxinfo07 at 1:25 PM on 2/5/08 Report Spam

If the family approves the small wedding, if not freak them and elope!8-) Posted by heather51980 at 3:57 PM on 8/13/07 Report Spam

You will regret eloping and not having your close friends or family! Posted by morgy1 at 9:45 AM on 8/21/07 Report Spam

You don't ever want to look back and regret it...family and friends should be there...you could always get married again at Vegas for your 10 yr. anniversary but not the other way around. : ) Posted by joaniplenty at 7:21 PM on 8/29/07 Report Spam

Small, cute wedding! It's more special. Posted by swedishphish116 at 4:26 PM on 9/3/07 Report Spam

While a wedding is "supposed" to be for the bride and groom, it's really a way for your friends and family to celebrate your happiness with you. If you elope, you rob them of that chance. Plus, you'll always wish you'd had your real-life fairy tale wedding. Posted by heartsdesire68 at 5:28 PM on 9/18/07 Report Spam

weddings are special..you won't regrt it Posted by mysyka at 8:53 AM on 9/19/07 Report Spam

I say small wedding. You want to share this time with your closet friends and family Posted by cassie25 at 7:25 AM on 9/20/07 Report Spam

Just went through this with about 60 guests. It was an excuse for a party and to get all of our friends from all over the country together. If you can dictate the list, do the small wedding Posted by alteridem at 10:56 AM on 9/20/07 Report Spam

intimate, Vegas is so Britney Trainwreck Spears Posted by xdaisy at 12:00 PM on 9/21/07 Report Spam

There is nothing to replace having family & friends on your special day. Posted by ozarkcat at 8:09 PM on 9/22/07 Report Spam

this one Posted by vinewood at 9:51 AM on 9/24/07 Report Spam

It is something you'll always remember, plus guests=gifts!! Posted by mehannah81 at 7:37 AM on 9/26/07 Report Spam

I eloped. But, I kinda miss not having my wedding, with family and friends. Posted by delialiles at 1:49 PM on 9/28/07 Report Spam

If you elope, you risk hurting people's feelings, and people probably won't give you wedding gifts. Still, you should be able to plan a nice wedding inexpensively. Pick what is most important to splurge, and be conservative on everything else. But STAY AWAY from David's Bridal...those folks will send you spam every day for a long time. Posted by shhh at 2:30 PM on 9/28/07 Report Spam

A small wedding for that price isn't all that bad, and it's more memorable for everyone, I feel. Posted by kitsune01 at 4:15 PM on 9/28/07 Report Spam

I would definately do this one! Posted by blackdiamond30 at 12:08 PM on 9/29/07 Report Spam

u might regret it later... Posted by jessica at 4:52 PM on 9/29/07

You'll regret not having a wedding later. Posted by angela65 at 10:11 PM on 9/29/07 Report Spam

beautiful pic Posted by tristajohnson at 9:04 PM on 10/1/07 Report Spam

always nice to have friends and family to share a special moment with Posted by emily919 at 9:50 AM on 10/3/07 Report Spam

e1 will remember it forever & so will u, trust me if u don't do the small wedding u'll regret it lol i do Posted by waltswife at 5:31 AM on 10/4/07 Report Spam

Eloping is just like a vacation anyway. you can do that anytime. Posted by brinnet at 6:09 AM on 10/5/07 Report Spam

i think elope sounds boring Posted by hannahpink94 at 1:14 PM on 10/10/07 Report Spam

eloping may seem fun and cheaper, but think of all the people who wont be there and if you have kids do you wont to tell them you just got eloped or do you want to tell them about a beautiful small wedding Posted by sylviacc at 5:41 AM on 10/11/07 Report Spam

u will hopefully have only 1 wedding and the memories will be forever.. it's a girls dream to have the wedding of their dreams Posted by laurie1 at 1:05 PM on 10/13/07 Report Spam

i have had both small is better and u will want your loved one there. elope i wished my family was there. even tho it was so much easier! Posted by merch_fashionaire at 3:25 PM on 10/14/07 Report Spam

oh, i don't know... i'd always go for the romantic, fairytale-ish wedding, you can elope later for your honeymoon to Barbados or wherever you want but you can't really recreate this stylish mansion the next time you wish you've gotten married there :) Posted by cremedelacreme at 2:32 PM on 10/15/07 Report Spam

you never get this day again (supposedly...) get the video camera and show it to your kids... They will love every second of it! Posted by katiewh at 8:14 PM on 10/16/07 Report Spam

just a copel thousand more.. and you get your family and just magical moments! Posted by lhfreak at 11:27 AM on 10/17/07 Report Spam

elopment is wonderful, you get to spend your special day with just yourselves and it is a lot more cost effective. but when it is all said and done, a great party with great friends and family is worth the cost. Posted by pkatt51 at 8:00 PM on 10/19/07 Report Spam

romantic Posted by dissolvedgrl222 at 5:46 PM on 10/20/07 Report Spam

beautiful Posted by Destinee at 4:11 PM on 10/20/07

You parents want to be there Posted by kaydo_1 at 8:55 AM on 10/22/07 Report Spam

later on youmight regret not having a wedding with friends and family Posted by redangel52 at 6:41 AM on 10/23/07 Report Spam

This was easy. To share this memory with family and friends is a must. Have a smaller wedding and go to Barbados for your honeymoon. That's for the two of you. Posted by Debbie at 6:41 AM on 10/24/07

to elope means to run away from something. are you ahamed of your choice?? if not have the small wedding. :) Posted by sunshine48126 at 12:37 PM on 10/24/07 Report Spam

I say go for the small wedding...you'll be able to cherish the memories with loved ones later. I had a small wedding on the beach w/ 3 guests...and then had a much larger reception at home to share with everyone else. Posted by atorres at 8:42 PM on 10/25/07 Report Spam

wut the inside look like Posted by shoper at 1:39 PM on 10/26/07 Report Spam

I'm so conservative... but I also couldn't imagine getting married without my best friends and my parents there. I'd have to go for small wedding! Posted by her_purple_pixieness at 8:00 AM on 10/28/07 Report Spam

This way you will have no regrets and will never wonder what it would have been like to have the "fairytale wedding." Posted by chelleg at 4:24 PM on 10/28/07 Report Spam

you will remember your wedding forever. Keep it small, but make it a day you will never forget! Posted by gucci_girl1986 at 5:41 PM on 10/28/07 Report Spam

I am only twelve so it doesn't really mean much to me. Posted by user123 at 11:32 AM on 11/1/07 Report Spam

go for it Posted by hanalouise at 5:51 AM on 11/2/07 Report Spam

Share this once in a lifetime moment with those you love. Posted by jeancjeannie at 12:48 PM on 11/2/07 Report Spam

Its a big day so why run away!!! :D Posted by bogdancer at 9:22 PM on 11/2/07 Report Spam

share the special day Posted by pebblz13 at 10:25 AM on 11/3/07 Report Spam

40 guests at $3000 is not bad at all for a wedding at least you're not spending 30,000! Happy wedding and a great marriage to you! Posted by stargazers at 8:12 PM on 11/3/07 Report Spam

GHVKHK Posted by gabbyforever at 2:26 PM on 11/6/07 Report Spam

That looks absolutely beautiful for a wedding, and what a memorable one it would be if you had it there. Posted by ncbob at 2:05 PM on 11/7/07 Report Spam

looks pretty on the out side Posted by ememgirly44 at 4:36 PM on 11/8/07 Report Spam

I think that a wedding/marriage should be for the friends and family to see your love. Posted by kacki at 12:41 PM on 11/9/07 Report Spam

this is a special day spend it with loved ones Posted by lenovo at 5:05 PM on 11/9/07 Report Spam

You might regret it if you don't. Posted by kpatterson7 at 6:40 PM on 11/9/07 Report Spam

you will always remember this, you want to share it with people u love, its your day!! Posted by tori1333 at 8:16 PM on 11/9/07 Report Spam

if ur close to family and friends you'll regret eloping. Pay for the small wedding. Even though it's more money you'll get so back in gifts! Posted by ja at 10:12 AM on 11/10/07

The way I look at it, I only PLAN on getting married once...and I'd want to share it with people I love and make it a day I'll always remember. Congrats!! :c) Posted by wisperina at 11:47 AM on 11/10/07 Report Spam

If you can afford it, I vote for the wedding. I wanted to elope, but he wanted a day with all our family & friends. I'm glad we did! Posted by dvussmile at 1:10 PM on 11/10/07 Report Spam

Let your family enjoy your special day! You can do a small wedding for even less than $3000 if you handle most of the details yourself. Posted by ldybery at 2:03 PM on 11/10/07 Report Spam

Have the small wedding and then go to Barbados. Posted by gemfrog at 12:25 AM on 11/11/07 Report Spam

get married in the carribean or pacific side of Mexico and let anyone who can afford a week or so off pay their own way. You can find some lovely restaurants for under 1000 that will even let you get married right there by the beach! Posted by sarahska63 at 1:07 AM on 11/12/07 Report Spam

get married in the carribean or pacific side of Mexico and let anyone who can afford a week or so off pay their own way. You can find some lovely restaurants for under 1000 that will even let you get married right there by the beach! Posted by sarahska63 at 1:07 AM on 11/12/07 Report Spam

ELOPING IS FOR THE GAYS. CHOOSE LOVE AND NERVOSSSSS Posted by shoppinglovah at 7:23 AM on 11/12/07 Report Spam

This would be more memorable. It looks romantic Posted by hookervomit at 6:10 AM on 11/14/07 Report Spam

Just think how romantic, and what stories you'll have to tell afterward! Posted by cakatya at 11:47 AM on 11/14/07 Report Spam

it's too important of a day. you won't regret it. plus it's still relatively small. Posted by ivory7818 at 11:34 AM on 11/15/07 Report Spam

Romantic trip Posted by suave50 at 10:50 AM on 11/15/07 Report Spam

it looks more romantico!!! Posted by li1dominicanchula at 5:41 PM on 11/15/07 Report Spam

Have a casual, fun wedding! You'll be glad you did! I am! Posted by greenasil at 1:54 PM on 11/17/07 Report Spam

so i'm a romantic... go all out on your day .... you rarely get a second chance. guess it is voe (voice of...) speaking. married 21 yrs, didn't do it our way, wish we had. Posted by vintagemodern at 2:28 PM on 11/17/07 Report Spam

I did it the other way and recommend the small wedding Posted by bonitacharlie at 12:41 PM on 11/17/07 Report Spam

all your friends and family will be there, plus you get gifts. Posted by jlslovespws at 8:43 AM on 11/18/07 Report Spam

I would want my family there... Posted by irsheyees at 9:43 AM on 11/19/07 Report Spam

wow i think ive been here it look so fimiliar Posted by curlyk at 11:26 AM on 11/19/07 Report Spam

small weeding you want everyone to be there. Posted by keilani at 9:51 PM on 11/19/07 Report Spam

this is a GORGEUOUS place to have your wedding, it will be a memory that you will NEVER forget.. Posted by umrawr11 at 4:58 AM on 11/20/07 Report Spam

wedding Posted by carriesue at 9:17 PM on 11/20/07 Report Spam

Wow, this dress is amazing. Is this what you'll be wearing? Posted by triplyksis at 12:26 PM on 8/15/07 Report Spam

wow. stunning Posted by 2haute at 2:36 AM on 8/19/07 Report Spam