See this at: plymouth.ac.uk| Added on 09/24/07

Being aggressive may be a response to feeling powerless. Aggressive behaviour may be any behaviour which gives us power over others. It may take the form of threats, bullying, sarcasm, fighting etc. It is likely to elicit a defensive or aggressive... See more

Being aggressive may be a response to feeling powerless. Aggressive behaviour may be any behaviour which gives us power over others. It may take the form of threats, bullying, sarcasm, fighting etc. It is likely to elicit a defensive or aggressive response from others. Sometimes this can happen when we keep feelings locked inside, leading to a state of resentment. If we are always ‘nice’, this can leave us feeling that we are often exploited. If the build-up gets too much, we may get to a point where we explode inappropriately or at the wrong target. Learning to be assertive. (Not saying ‘yes’ when we really mean ‘no’.) It is important to connect to our feelings and use them to help us recognise what we want to change. It will help if we can express our emotions to an appropriate person in a non-blaming way. Communicating our feelings gives us a chance to be better understood or improve our relationships. Brooding too long over an incident is only likely to make matters worse.... See less

See this at: copyblogger.com| Added on 09/22/07

Very smart list, Brian. I particularly agree with “I’m not creative.” It drives me crazy that people say that, because I’ve s... See more

Very smart list, Brian. I particularly agree with “I’m not creative.” It drives me crazy that people say that, because I’ve seen so many “uncreative” people become really good with practice. Creativity takes the willingness to try and fail–a lot–before becoming good. Even the best creatives strike out more than they hit a home run. The key is that they don’t let it stop them. The books you picked are all really good, even though I’d recommend de Bono’s Serious Creativity over Lateral Thinking. Serious Creativity is basically the updated version, and it’s a lot easier to find. I also recommend Ideas are Free and Blue Ocean Strategy. Hope this helps! * #3 Joanna Young → 09.18.07 at 3:54 pm Hi Brian I really enjoyed this post. I don’t know - it felt more like you than some of the other things you turn out to get people going… For me ~10 is key to it all. About a year ago I shifted my belief from “I’m not a creative person” to “I am a creative person”. It was the best personal development... See less

See this at: 6seconds.org| Added on 02/24/07

"You have receptors on every cell in your body. They actually are little mini electrical pumps." When the receptor is activated by a matching "molecule of emotion" the receptor passes a charge into the cell changing the cell's electrical frequency as... See more

"You have receptors on every cell in your body. They actually are little mini electrical pumps." When the receptor is activated by a matching "molecule of emotion" the receptor passes a charge into the cell changing the cell's electrical frequency as well as its chemistry. Pert says that just as our individual cells carry an electrical charge, so does the body as a whole. Like an electromagnet generating a field, Pert says that people have a positive charge above their heads and a negative charge below. "So we're actually sending out various electrical signals - vibrations." "We're all familiar with one kind of vibration: When we talk, we send a vibration through the air that someone else perceives as sound. As I explain in the book, we're also sending out other kinds of vibrations. It's a basic law of physics that when you are close to an energy source it has a greater effect and that diminishes as you move further away. But when you are far away there is no effect." "It's not... See less

Highlights: Self-Science: The Emotional Intelligence Curriculum Price: $34.65

See this at: healingeagle.net| Added on 02/24/07

To let go doesn't mean to stop caring; it means I can´t do it for someone else. To let go is not to cut myself off; it's the realization that I can´t control another. To let go is not to enable, but to allow learning from natural consequences. To let... See more

To let go doesn't mean to stop caring; it means I can´t do it for someone else. To let go is not to cut myself off; it's the realization that I can´t control another. To let go is not to enable, but to allow learning from natural consequences. To let go is to admit powerlessness, which means the outcome is not in my hands. To let go is not to try to change or blame another; I can change only myself. To let go is not to care for, but to care about. To let go is not to fix, but to be supportive. To let go is not to judge, but to allow another to be a human being. To let go is not to be in the middle arranging all the outcomes, but to allow others to affect their own outcomes. To let go is not to be protective; it is to permit another to face reality. To let go is not to deny, but to accept. To let go is not to adjust everything to my desires, but to take each day as it comes and to cherish the moment. To let go is not to nag, scold, or argue, but to search out my own shortcomings and to... See less

See this at: financialsuccess1.co...| Added on 10/11/06

Myth No. 2: Being paid for something you enjoy isn't work and you shouldn't ask for money for doing something that is enjoyable. Check this with millionaires. They all have so much money that they don't need to work anymore. Nevertheless, they work... See more

Myth No. 2: Being paid for something you enjoy isn't work and you shouldn't ask for money for doing something that is enjoyable. Check this with millionaires. They all have so much money that they don't need to work anymore. Nevertheless, they work for other reasons, challenge, satisfaction, fullness of life, activity, fun ... and all are connected to a love for their work. If there was no joy in doing a certain task, they would do something else that would make them much happier and that enables them to realize their dreams. In fact, if you don't enjoy your work, you will never become wealthy doing it! However, just because you enjoy your work doesn't mean you shouldn't get paid for it - in fact, that is the ultimate goal, to get paid for what you already enjoy so it never feels like you are at work! See less

See this at: getimusic.com| Added on 10/03/06

* In a 1999 study, Thomas Budzynski Ph.D found brainwave training gave college students a tremendous competitive edge: the group that used brainwave training technology watched their GPA's sharply rise & continue to improve even after the treatment,... See more

* In a 1999 study, Thomas Budzynski Ph.D found brainwave training gave college students a tremendous competitive edge: the group that used brainwave training technology watched their GPA's sharply rise & continue to improve even after the treatment, while those that did not (the control group) continued to struggle & watch their GPA's decline. * Psychologist Michael Joyce used brainwave entrainment with a group of 30 children. He observed improvements in reading and a half year advancement in grade level as well as substantial improvements in attention, reaction and a reduction in impulsivity and variability. * Harold Russel Ph.D. and John Carter, Ph.D., of the University of Houston, did several studies in which they used brainwave entrainment to treat ADHD and other learning disorders, testing their IQ before and after treatment. Astonishingly, after treatment the subjects showed a 5 to 7 point increases in IQ score. * Michael Tansey used brainwave training technology to treat... See less

See this at: brenniesdreamscape.c...| Added on 10/03/06

One of the best ways to create change is by using affirmations, which lead to positive thinking. Affirmations are positive statements that you say to yourself over and over again. Our conscious mind is the vehicle of thought. Our subconscious mind... See more

One of the best ways to create change is by using affirmations, which lead to positive thinking. Affirmations are positive statements that you say to yourself over and over again. Our conscious mind is the vehicle of thought. Our subconscious mind reacts to these thoughts and the more often they are repeated, the more they become integrated into our reality and lead us to make decisions that will allow them to be manifested. Click on the image of your choice to read the affirmations. If you have some suggestions for affirmations you'd like to see here, please let me know. See less

See this at: thehappinessinstitut...| Added on 10/03/06

This free special report will help you understand how damaging depression can be if you don't do anything about it. Just as, if not more importantly, it will also help you understand the 6 key strategies we believe will help you move towards living a... See more

This free special report will help you understand how damaging depression can be if you don't do anything about it. Just as, if not more importantly, it will also help you understand the 6 key strategies we believe will help you move towards living a happier life. The 7 Most Commonly Asked Questions About Happiness Having seen treated and coached over 1000 individuals, presented to thousands more, worked with numerous organisations to improve morale and satisfaction, and conducted literally hundreds of media interviews, Dr. Sharp has answered his fair share of questions on happiness. In this free eBook, he responds to 7 of the most commonly asked questions with practical and succinct solutions. We hope you enjoy it and find it useful in your search for happiness. In fact, we're sure you will! From Depression to Happiness in 7 Simple Steps Although The Happiness Institute has been established with a positive focus very much in mind, we're well aware that many people are searching for... See less

See this at: howtobecooler.com| Added on 10/03/06

Home About Contact News & Updates "Cool" Links Resource Links This page contains free social skills information that will help shy, lonely, insecure, hard-up guys catch up with everyone else. If you're currently dealing with these issues, becoming an... See more

Home About Contact News & Updates "Cool" Links Resource Links This page contains free social skills information that will help shy, lonely, insecure, hard-up guys catch up with everyone else. If you're currently dealing with these issues, becoming an all-around cooler person may be the missing piece of the equation for you. I'm using the word 'cool' in the sense of "You'll like him, he's a cool guy" - someone who's fun, interesting, and pleasant to be around. I'm not referring to someone who belongs to some snobbish, unapproachable elite or who is into the 'right' music, wears the 'right' clothes, and goes to the 'right' places. Being cooler acts as a foundation that makes many other types of social interactions, like making friends and meeting women, more effortless and natural. To be clear though, this site isn't about how to become the most popular guy in the room or a huge lady's man. It's more basic and remedial. It will just help you become an average, contented dude... which is... See less

See this at: happyslob.com| Added on 09/27/06

1. Oven Cleaner Sprinkle baking soda on bottom of oven, and spray with just enough water to slightly dampen. Let sit overnight, and then scrub clean. 2. Carpet Freshener Sprinkle over entire carpet area, and then allow to sit for 15-20 minutes.... See more

1. Oven Cleaner Sprinkle baking soda on bottom of oven, and spray with just enough water to slightly dampen. Let sit overnight, and then scrub clean. 2. Carpet Freshener Sprinkle over entire carpet area, and then allow to sit for 15-20 minutes. Vaccuum all the baking soda up and the smells will go with it! Great way to replace commercial carpet fresheners. 3. Unclog Drains Pour a cup of baking soda down any drain and follow with a few cups of boiling water to keep drains running well. To unclog a tougher clog, try baking soda, followed by a cup of vinegar - let that sit and then flush out with boiling water. 4. Powder Cleanser Use baking soda instead of powder cleanser to scrub the tub, toilet, etc. Works great! And it's totally safe to use. 5. Scrub Pots Sprinkle into the bottom of pots and let sit and then give a good scrub. Can also make a paste of soda and water if you prefer. 6. Garbage Cans Use in garbage cans to reduce odor. Sprinkle generous amount in bottom before replacing... See less

See this at: lessons4living.com| Added on 09/16/06

The "Opportunity Attitude." Change wears two faces, the face of danger and the face of opportunity. The danger face is usually seen first. You may have to look hard to find the opportunity face. Change begins with loss. Change always involves danger... See more

The "Opportunity Attitude." Change wears two faces, the face of danger and the face of opportunity. The danger face is usually seen first. You may have to look hard to find the opportunity face. Change begins with loss. Change always involves danger because change always begins with loss. In order to change you must let go of where you are to get to where you are going. You leave something behind. Such loss is usually experienced as a threat and therefore a danger. The "Letting Go" phase of change involves losses which can range from giving up the security of a routine task, to saying good bye to a familiar environment, to losing meaningful long term work relationships. Such a series of losses may be the result of having received a promotion and new career opportunities. While this is a positive change, it still involves loss. Whether a change is positive or negative, loss is always involved. The Dangerous/Opportunity The Chinese word for crisis is similar to the faces of change. The... See less

See this at: learningtoforgive.co...| Added on 09/10/06

The 9 Steps to forgiveness help you forgive others so you can heal your hurt feelings. This leads to increase in confidence and feelings of peace and love inside. Beauty and kindness is all around.

The 9 Steps to forgiveness help you forgive others so you can heal your hurt feelings. This leads to increase in confidence and feelings of peace and love inside. Beauty and kindness is all around. See less

See this at: humanbeingcurious.co...| Added on 09/02/06

This is part 4 of a series. If you'd like to start at the introduction, go here. So you realize that there’s something in your life that, if you were to think or behave differently, you’d be more likely to get the results you want, but you feel as... See more

This is part 4 of a series. If you'd like to start at the introduction, go here. So you realize that there’s something in your life that, if you were to think or behave differently, you’d be more likely to get the results you want, but you feel as though you don’t have to change this right now, right? There’s always tomorrow, or next week right? This is where change obstacle number four gets in the way. Chang Obstacle #4: No Urgency Everyone is busy. Everyone has a lot to do, and a lot on their minds, and making a change that you know would benefit you just doesn’t have that high of a priority on the list. When will it get a higher priority? Will you decide to change your diet and eating habits the day after you have a heart attack? Will you decide you need to put a little more effort into your relationship with your spouse the day they tell you they want a divorce? The key here is to become aware of what urgency levels you have around certain things in your life that you know are... See less

See this at: coping.org| Added on 08/27/06

* Withdraw prematurely from a helping situation because you are not seeing an immediate pay off for your efforts. * Turn off the others in your life who want to support you, but whom you offend by accusing them (when change is slow) of ``not helping... See more

* Withdraw prematurely from a helping situation because you are not seeing an immediate pay off for your efforts. * Turn off the others in your life who want to support you, but whom you offend by accusing them (when change is slow) of ``not helping you enough.'' * Sacrifice friendships and relationships prematurely because the other person is not changing as quickly or as thoroughly as you desire. See less

See this at: appleseeds.org| Added on 08/26/06

We have all read about people who are successful briefly. They win a gold medal, make a fortune, or star in one great movie and then disappear.…These examples do not inspire me! My focus and fascination is with people who seem to do well in many... See more

We have all read about people who are successful briefly. They win a gold medal, make a fortune, or star in one great movie and then disappear.…These examples do not inspire me! My focus and fascination is with people who seem to do well in many areas of life, and do it over and over through a lifetime. In entertainment, I think of Paul Newman and Bill Cosby. In business, I think of Ben and Jerry (the ice cream moguls)…As a Naval Officer, husband, businessman, politician and now as a mediator and philanthropist on the world stage, Jimmy Carter has had a remarkable life. We all know examples of people who go from one success to another. These are the people who inspire me! I've studied them, and I've noticed they have the following traits in common: See less

See this at: despair.com| Added on 08/19/06

2006 Calendars | Demotivators (By Name | Product Type) | Art of Demotivation Book | The MORE DVD | Pessimist's Mug | Other Products

2006 Calendars | Demotivators (By Name | Product Type) | Art of Demotivation Book | The MORE DVD | Pessimist's Mug | Other Products See less

See this at: success.com| Added on 08/19/06

Success or failure is never based on the outcome of the situation but rather on your beliefs about what constitutes success or failure. If there are no failures what would you attempt that you feared in the past? If you had the belief that there are... See more

Success or failure is never based on the outcome of the situation but rather on your beliefs about what constitutes success or failure. If there are no failures what would you attempt that you feared in the past? If you had the belief that there are no failures but only results what would you attempt to do? The number one reason why people fail is not because of ability, talent or resources; but because they never even take the first step. They are immobilized by their fear of failing and looking bad. Can it be that not taking action and spending a lifetime wanting something in vain be the ultimate failure? What if taking action and producing a result means success and procrastination means failure? You get to choose. Filed under: Behavior , Change See less

See this at: video.google.com| Added on 08/19/06

A glimpse of the remarkable father-son bond of Dick and Rick Hoyt, and their inspirational journey together in a triathlon and life itself. Music: "I Can Only Imagine" by Mercy Me

A glimpse of the remarkable father-son bond of Dick and Rick Hoyt, and their inspirational journey together in a triathlon and life itself. Music: "I Can Only Imagine" by Mercy Me See less

See this at: meditainment.com| Added on 08/15/06

You can download these guided meditation MP3 audio files for playing on your computer, mobile audio device, or for burning a disc. You can also share them with up to 10 friends.

You can download these guided meditation MP3 audio files for playing on your computer, mobile audio device, or for burning a disc. You can also share them with up to 10 friends. See less

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See this at: coachingtohappiness....| Added on 08/13/06

They thought that it would be a disgrace to go forth as a group. Each entered the forest at a point he himself had chosen, where it was darkest and there was no path. If there is a path it is someone else's path and you are not on the adventure.

They thought that it would be a disgrace to go forth as a group. Each entered the forest at a point he himself had chosen, where it was darkest and there was no path. If there is a path it is someone else's path and you are not on the adventure. See less

See this at: coachingtohappiness....| Added on 08/13/06

They thought that it would be a disgrace to go forth as a group. Each entered the forest at a point he himself had chosen, where it was darkest and there was no path. If there is a path it is someone else's path and you are not on the adventure.

They thought that it would be a disgrace to go forth as a group. Each entered the forest at a point he himself had chosen, where it was darkest and there was no path. If there is a path it is someone else's path and you are not on the adventure. See less

See this at: briankim.net| Added on 08/12/06

The phrase “You can do it if you just believe” has become so watered down to the point that people just roll their eyes when they hear it. They’ve tried it and it just doesn’t work for them. Here are just a few quotes on the subject. “To succeed, we... See more

The phrase “You can do it if you just believe” has become so watered down to the point that people just roll their eyes when they hear it. They’ve tried it and it just doesn’t work for them. Here are just a few quotes on the subject. “To succeed, we must first believe that we can.” - Michael Korda “Your belief determines your action and your action determines your results, but first you have to believe.” -Mark Victor Hansen “Don’t limit yourself. Many people limit themselves to what they think they can do. You can go as far as your mind lets you. What you believe, remember, you can achieve.” - Mary Kay Ash “You have to believe in yourself” – Sun Tzu “Believe that you will succeed, and you will.” - Dale Carnegie “Whatever the mind of man can conceive and believe, he can achieve.” – Napoleon Hill Notice how they are all saying essentially the same thing, that if you believe it, you can do it. Well, let me just say I wholeheartedly agree, but I think they left out one very important part... See less

Highlights: You took action because you already had the belief inside of you that you can make $1 today.

See this at: mindtools.com| Added on 08/12/06

Anger can be normal and healthy emotion that helps us instinctively detect and respond to a threatening situation. More than this, when it is properly channeled, it can be a powerful motivating force – we all know how hard we can work to remedy an... See more

Anger can be normal and healthy emotion that helps us instinctively detect and respond to a threatening situation. More than this, when it is properly channeled, it can be a powerful motivating force – we all know how hard we can work to remedy an obvious injustice. However it can also be an emotion that gets out of control, leading to stress, distress, unhealthiness and unhappiness. Uncontrolled anger can seriously harm your personal and professional life, because it can become incredibly destructive – to yourself and the people around you. And in a modern workplace that often demands trust and collaboration, it can cause great damage to working relationships. See less

See this at: home.att.net| Added on 08/12/06

"If the resistance of the counter culture fails, I think there will be nothing in store for us but what anti-Utopians Huxley and Orwell have forecast--though I have no doubt that these dismal despotisms will be far more stable and effective than... See more

"If the resistance of the counter culture fails, I think there will be nothing in store for us but what anti-Utopians Huxley and Orwell have forecast--though I have no doubt that these dismal despotisms will be far more stable and effective than their prophets have forseen. For they will be equipped with techniques of inner-manipulation as unobtrusively fine as gossamer. Above all, the capacity of our emerging technocratic paradise to denature the imagination by appropriating to itself the whole meaning of Reason, Reality, Progress, and Knowledge will render it impossible for men to give any name to their bothersomely unfulfilled potentialities but that of madness. And for such madness, humanitarian therapies will be generously provided." See less

See this at: healingeagle.net| Added on 08/09/06

Words of Others

Words of Others See less

See this at: cmaj.ca| Added on 08/08/06

We describe the off-label use of a recreational device (the Super Soaker Max-D 5000) in the alleviation of a socially emergent ear condition. A 45-year-old male complained of a profound reduction in his left ear acuity while staying at an island... See more

We describe the off-label use of a recreational device (the Super Soaker Max-D 5000) in the alleviation of a socially emergent ear condition. A 45-year-old male complained of a profound reduction in his left ear acuity while staying at an island cottage in rural Ontario. His hearing loss was reducing his ability to hear his newborn son cry in the middle of the night, requiring his wife to carry out all late-night child care. As a result, correction of the problem was considered urgent. The patient had been swimming multiple times a day for 6 days. He had had several ear infections as a child but was otherwise well. He admitted having used a Q-tip in his ear "once or twice" recently in the affected ear. An otoscope being available, examination of the external ears was conducted. The nature of his problem was revealed as bilaterally impacted cement-like ear cerumen. Neither a formal ear syringe, nor a syringe of any kind was available on the island. The day was very hot, and no one was... See less

See this at: escapefromcubiclenat...| Added on 08/08/06

To save you reading time, here is the short answer: NO. I wish there were a secret formula to ensure that the business idea you have been madly brewing in your mind is going to generate enough income to compensate for your current salary as an... See more

To save you reading time, here is the short answer: NO. I wish there were a secret formula to ensure that the business idea you have been madly brewing in your mind is going to generate enough income to compensate for your current salary as an employee, if not much more. Unfortunately, there are many, many factors that go into determining business success. One person can have a great, well-researched business idea that seems destined for success on paper, but whimpers out due to a poor sales and marketing effort. Someone else can have a kick-butt marketing plan that skyrockets exposure and generates lots of interest but that implodes due to poor operations planning or cash flow management. So while there is no guarantee of success, there are a handful of things you must have in place to see if your business has a chance of success: See less